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Agreed it is tough. But it is not impossible. Impossible is nothing, even in relationships. After all, we are influenced by what we think, perceive, value and feel. Relationships are often run on belief system. Beneath it is a logic that does not seem to accept it for some. Somehow they are not convinced about it. We are talking about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law nexus. Minus the poor husband.
Why is there acrimony between them? The answer is simple. The wife wants the husband to be her property. Somehow the wife does not acknowledge that her husband’s mother is a ‘’mother’’ and not ‘’another woman’’.
Here’s where the husband has to use his prudence, tact, and communication skills. The husband needs to communicate this fact to his wife. There is a difference between being a son and a husband. The relationship between a son and a mother is not a romantic one. Rather it is more of an emotional bond. The relationship between a son and wife is a romantic one. It is a sexual one. It is an emotional one too.
So where does the wife have a problem? It is definitely the emotional bond part. The wife somehow feels that the husband has to take-away his emotional bank balance from his mothers account, and deposit it into his wife’s account.
But then again, the emotional bond has a difference. The emotional bond between n a son and a mother is of gratitude, security, authority, respect, and love. So then, why still does the wife have a problem?